Sadly enough, those whom the parent(s) prefer are often those whom they personally find more physically attractive, or who have careers (and incomesвЂ¦) that suit their own preferences.Д«asically, theyвЂ™re trying to live vicariously through their children, and if their adult вЂњkidsвЂќ donвЂ™t make the choices they want, then they feel cheated, somehow.

She was disabled, and if he didnвЂ™t come home immediately when she wanted him to, sheвЂ™d text him something like вЂњIвЂ™m going to do X thing, and if I fall down and hurt myself or DIE because you werenвЂ™t here to take care of me, then itвЂ™ll be YOUR fault.вЂќД«eing a rather sensitive sort, he knew damned well that he would blame himself if anything did happen, so he just sighed and complied every time, hating himself for allowing her to manipulate him so badly. There was once a man whose sickly mother kept him completely under her thumb by threatening to harm herself if he didnвЂ™t do what she wanted, when she wanted. Threats, Both Against You, Or Toward Themselves When dealing with a narcissist, if you canвЂ™t go no contact with them, then your best bet is to adopt the gray rock method and be emotionally unresponsive to their jibes. Please note: if you have identified your parent as a narcissist (and itвЂ™s important to point out that being controlling doesnвЂ™t automatically make one a narcissist), this approach is not advised. Wow, this chocolate mousse is deliciousвЂ¦вЂќ You вЂ“ вЂњWell, you didnвЂ™t NEED to cheat on (other parent) with X, but you did it anyway. Am I right? WouldnвЂ™t he/she look so much better if he/she lost weight? Just put the fork down, dear.вЂќ Parent вЂ“ вЂњAre you sure you really need dessert? YouвЂ™re already fatter than you should be at your height. Just be prepared that they might make an attempt to laugh it off, and their cronies may then step up to be supportive and gang up against you like a bunch of flying monkeys.ДЄ more effective approach, albeit a вЂњfighting dirtyвЂќ one, is to bring up some heinous family secret that they wouldnвЂ™t want aired in order to shut them the hell up. If you have enough strength to tell them вЂ“ in front of friends or relatives вЂ“ that their behavior is unacceptable and wonвЂ™t be tolerated, then do so.

ItвЂ™s one thing if your parent tells you that they donвЂ™t like the dГ©cor in your home, your choice of career, your hair color, or your wardrobe.Д«ut itвЂ™s another thing entirely if they mock or belittle you in front of other people. Things can get even uglier if you have the sort of parent who likes to belittle you in public, whether for their own amusement, or because they think that getting their peers on their side against you will strengthen their stance toward you and force you to change your mind to align with theirs.

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